I came across this article on BusinessInsider and the title caught my attention. Considering the changes going on in my life, I thought, “why not read some tips from someone who obviously has their shit together, enough so they have been interviewed and asked what are mentally healthy things to do each day?”
So here are my thoughts on the article at a glance.
1.They monitor their emotions – “People often assume mentally strong people suppress their emotions, Morin says, but they are actually “acutely aware” of them… They know sometimes reaching their greatest potential requires them to behave contrary to how they feel.”
I think for most people, seeing a change in their emotions isn’t the difficult part. Knowing which emotion they have reached and knowing how to deal with that change of emotion, is the challenge. Personally, it’s only after the change of emotion and the end of the situation that I can look back and think over what had happened. I guess it takes practice and a lot of self reflection to be able to do that in the moment.
4. They practice self-compassion – “Rather than beating themselves up for mistakes, mentally strong people practice self-compassion and speak to themselves as they would speak to a good friend, Morin says.”
“They respond to their inner critic as if they were standing up to the schoolyard bully,” she says. “They forgive themselves for mistakes and cheer themselves on as they work toward their goals.”
I feel like this would take some practice. In the moment it’s simple to stand up to yourself and say ‘no, no, no.’ It would be the time afterwards, when you’re reflecting back on your decision, that self-doubt can negate anything positive you felt at the time. I feel this is definitely more a practice of letting things go than accepting how things are.
7. This strive to fulfill their purpose – “Successfully fulfilling your purpose in life takes time. Mentally strong people understand this and focus on the big picture, keeping in mind that today’s choices impact their future.”
Identifying what your purpose in life the bigger question here. How does one do that? Of course, we can have inklings and passions that drive us to do things we love, whether it makes us money or not (which is why it is a passion!) and we find ways to indulge in that passion. But is a passion and purpose the same thing? I think in the article they needed to elaborate a bit more on how you can discover what your purpose is. I do think, to some degree, it means knowing the goals you want to reach throughout your life time; knowing a head of time, years, decades a head of time, and knowing when you want to achieve them.
This article, though a little bare for information, is a good starting point to seeing where those who need direction can begin their search for becoming mentally strong. Hopefully, they find it necessary to write a more in-depth article with more information.
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